I am a firm believer of the power of human connection and living a longer, healthier life. This article was written in the Harvard Health Publishing at Harvard Medical School. I have shared my personal story about having cancer when I was in my early twenties. UCSF and Stanford said I would not live past 50. I turn 50 this coming to November and I attribute my health and life to my husband and our relationship. I have spent the last year researching the correlation between human connection and living longer. There are studies out there that have confirmed my belief. Although this article focuses on the Holidays, it is relevant at any time.
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Cassie Zampa- Keim
Serving singles since 1992
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"Body Language Is Still Important In Dating Over 50" receives this week's IM Recognition Award! Recommended by the Innovative Match Editorial Team, this Huffington Post article wins our nod of approval for the valuable message it promotes. We hope you'll enjoy this informative read as you continue your journey on the Romance Highway.
Body Language Is Still Important In Dating Over 50 by Anthonia Akitunde
A positive attitude is your fuel on the Romance Highway, but do you often feel like you’re running out of gas? Don’t stall just yet! Here are expert tips for filling your tank so you don’t miss out on finding “the one.” 1. VISUALIZE YOUR DESTINATION
Just as you would plan a road trip, spend time mapping your future. Be clear on what you are looking for in a partner. Do you like to travel or go hiking on weekends? Steer towards someone who shares your passions. Look at where you are today, and lean towards a partner who compliments you.
2. EMBRACE EACH DETOUR
Every awkward date or heartbreak is a lesson. Of course, it isn’t easy to examine initially, but don’t let your wisdom go to waste. Emotions can be quicksand; don’t let them pull you down. Instead, date forward! Each experience is a chance to correct your path towards a greater match.
3. GRAB THE WHEEL
Be your own champion and GPS! Reaching your destination isn’t feasible from the backseat. Making progress on your own behalf breeds both confidence and change. Getting online is just an initial step. Search members, post new photos, and update your profile. The more you give, the more you shall receive.
4.TUNE YOUR ENGINE
Self-care is an extension of self-confidence. Exercise daily to trigger happy chemicals in your brain. Use positive words in your vocabulary. Employ meditation exercises to soothe your mind. Practice power poses to optimize body language and release stress fast. Carve out personal time, just as you would an oil change, to extend your journey on the Romance Highway.
5. FUN FOLLOWS FUN When you’re in play mode, you feel carefree and confident. Everybody wants to get to know people who enjoy themselves; fun is contagious! Plan “gal pal” junkets like weekend trips, supper clubs, new sports activities, art classes, etc. Seek out fun for yourself and a fun dating experience will soon follow.
6. EXPLORE NEW ROUTES
Maximize your dating channels: join a co-ed workout class, volunteer on a committee at your church, or go to university alumni events. Bring work to a restaurant and challenge yourself to sit solo at the bar. Dating is a numbers game, and sustaining an ongoing flow of new opportunities is key.
7. DITCH THE BAGGAGE
Huffington Post offers great tips on leading a focused life. Don’t let other people’s opinions or fear weigh you down. Check the rear view mirror periodically to remember what you’ve conquered, but keep your gaze on the road ahead. The lighter you travel, the more room there will be for hope, faith, and optimism.
Above all, choose to make the best of your journey. Start your drive energized, with a clear mind and a positive demeanor. Get on the road with a nice cup of coffee on a sunny day. Integrate these tools on the Romance Highway and you’ll set yourself up for a successful trip. You’ll be at your destination before you know it.
Need help navigating the Romance Highway? Contact us today to learn about our customized services and strategies for relationship success. Our team takes great pride in the personal relationship fostered with each client and feels privileged to accompany you on your journey to lifelong happiness. We look forward to hearing from you!
The Ask Cass Editorial Team continually mines the web for the best content for singles over 45. Each month, we will feature two must-read articles here on our blog.
On the Romance Highway, are you opting to accelerate confidently forward, stay in neutral, or go in reverse? To ensure that you're on track, we're awarding our first IM Recognition to "How to Have a Year That Counts," one of Harvard Business Review's top blogs of 2014. Gain fresh insight about ways to meet and exceed your 2014 goals. Think bigger, take risks, increase your resilience and power through fear in order to reach your destination with the perfect match in your passenger seat.
How to Have a Year That Counts by Umair Haque
Need help navigating the Romance Highway? Contact us today to learn about our customized services and strategies for relationship success. Our team takes great pride in the personal relationship fostered with each client and feels privileged to accompany you on your journey to lifelong happiness. We look forward to hearing from you!
Welcome to the inaugural Ask Cass blog! Innovative Match is excited to shed light on an area that is often neglected - online dating over 45. In this post, we address the top misconceptions that can derail a successful online dating experience.
Myth #1: The guys I like are NOT on online dating sites!
Think again. 40 million people (40% of the single American population) use online dating services and that number is growing daily! Almost 20% of people who married in the last two years reported that they met online. But it’s not just for Generation Y. The age groups of who use online dating are changing. The over 45 set represents the fastest growing segment of this community.
Why would a successful, intelligent, motivated person use online dating?
Because they are successful, intelligent, and motivated! Online dating is the new trend and the best way to meet like-minded singles. Successful online daters are confident, goal-oriented and won't let what other people think get in their way.
There are at least a few hundred, if not thousands, of people out there who will be right for you!
Myth #2: My profile is perfect
You have one shot with the people who come across your profile online.
Either they will be amazed or they will move on to the thousands of other candidates vying for their attention. Ask yourself - are you someone whom you would want to go on a first date with?
Ask your friends to describe your best traits to aid in building the ultimate online profile.
Most importantly, being your best self online involves liking who you are today. For example, don’t put up photos from 10 years ago.
Myth #3: I'll look desperate
YOU ARE NOT DESPERATE.
Since when did being proactive become confused with being desperate?
One of the biggest challenges people face when beginning to online date is feeling uncomfortable with what others will think.
When you go out for a cocktail with a friend one evening, do you hide if someone beautiful or handsome approaching you? Likely not. It is human nature (and very socially acceptable) to desire companionship. There is no shame in meeting people at the electronic cocktail party either.
Myth #4: I'm the CEO of [Insert Fortune 500 Company Here] and my reputation will be ruined
There are many solutions to the “professional reputation” concern:
1. Hide your profile or pictures so that only people you are interested in can see who you are
2. Use tools to verify who your matches are
3. Revisit your concern. To maximize your potential, be visible so that you appear in searches. Recognize that attending the electronic cocktail party is not something that should be viewed as a flaw, but should be applauded and thought of as the norm.
Myth #5: I've been trying forever and have found no one
Re-evaluate how you have been "trying." Have you invested in fabulous photos that reflect your best current self? Have you written the “Ultimate Dating profile”?
Do you scroll through profiles and never show interest? Do you ignore messages always finding something wrong with the person? Are you on websites that cater to the specific group you're interested in?
Recognize that online dating is a journey. Approach it with a positive attitude. Be open, and know that that person is out there. Persistence is key.
Remember, it only takes one match to change your life.
Myth #6: It’s just not the right time for me to get involved
We procrastinate because we fear risk and rejection. Address procrastination head on.
It is always the right time to meet the person you might spend the rest of your life with. Make time to meet new people wherever you are in life. Saying yes is the first step to your happiness.
Don’t look at dating as a one-way street to a set destination. View the search for love as wide freeway full of options. Online dating is just another exit, another avenue of opportunity to meet someone. You may still meet someone via a fix up or at an event. However, when one is over 45 the dating world shrinks. Why cut yourself off from the abundance of online opportunities to not only meet romantic prospects, but also potentially new contacts, friends, and business partners?
Consider this blog to be a resource as you journey down the romance highway. We'll see you next week for the top ways to have the best attitude towards online dating!
