Good news: the world is opening up again post-Covid. That means you will probably start hearing about different events targeted at singles if you haven’t already. You will hear about them from dating apps, your friends, and the internet.

These events will be hosted in different venues and have different themes. They will be packaged differently, but the goal will always be the same: to put singles together.

This is great, and many of them will sound enticing, but — and there’s always a but — not all of these events will be worth your time. And your time is valuable. Therefore, you will want to qualify your events the way you would qualify your dates. Here’s why.  

1. Many of these events are attended mostly by women.

That offers excellent odds if you’re a guy but not so great odds if you’re a woman. If you’re looking to meet other women, there are ways to do that. But if you’re going to a singles event to meet a man and there are three men for every ten women, not only will your chances of meeting your next new love be limited, you may walk away feeling discouraged. That’s the last thing you want.

Every event you attend should be a confidence builder. It should also propel you further on your dating journey. You’re not spending your time well if you’re sitting on the sidelines watching other people engage in stimulating get-to-know-you-type conversations. So before you RSVP, ask the host who’s on the guest list. 

2. Not every singles event will be age-appropriate.

There are singles in every age group. I know; my clients range in age from their thirties to their eighties. That said, if you’re looking to start a family, attending a singles event for those over 50 may not be your best bet for finding a like-minded partner.

When dating, you need to consider whether the person you’re interested in is at the same stage of life you are. It’s not enough that you both enjoy the same dinner fare or like to ski. Your relationship goals also need to align. Age can play into that.

Again, ask the host who will be in attendance. One caveat: you will also come across dating events with no age range or a very large one. Still ask who’s coming because sometimes people sign up in groups, which can affect the demographic of the event one way or the other as word gets around.

3. Singles events will often focus on common interests.

Many singles events will focus on a specific interest. For example, the event may be for those who like outdoor adventures or for people interested in learning to cook a certain type of cuisine.

If neither of these pastimes appeals to you, and you’re looking for an event that caters to your interests, find an event that does. They’re out there.

Yes, opposites can attract. But a singles event is often a jumping-off point for a first date. So if you’re on a hike with a singles group but don’t enjoy hiking, you may not feel comfortable. Or, for that matter, want to do it again.

It’s great to expand your horizons and learn new skills. But if you choose to do it at singles events, make sure it’s for beginners like you if you are a beginner, so you meet people in the same situation as you. In other words, there needs to be common ground. Even if it’s a new skill, skill level can be the common ground you’re looking for. 

Final thoughts …

Do your research. There are so many opportunities to get out there and meet other singles. But you want to do it in an environment where you will feel confident. So ask questions of the host or the hosting company. You would vet your date before investing your time and money, right?

Singles events are no different. Just as it is on a date, the success you have at a singles event is very much a function of what you bring to the table. Except when it’s a singles event, that table can be any venue you choose. Choose wisely.